Breaking the Cycle: Healing Through Self-Love and Embracing Abundance Within.

There’s something hauntingly familiar about giving too much of ourselves to people who don’t see us clearly. We pour love into cracked vessels, hoping they’ll hold it, hoping they’ll reflect some of it back. But when they don’t, we’re left not only empty, but questioning our very worth.

This feeling inspired the words in the image above, something that’s lived in my heart for a long time. It reminded me of all the times I thought my love could fix something, or someone. That if I just gave more; more understanding, more compassion, more of myself, it would finally be enough.

But the truth is, love is not about depletion.

What if we redirected all that tenderness inward? What if, instead of chasing love, we chose to sit with ourselves and pour it into our own cracks? Healing doesn’t come from being chosen by someone else. It comes from choosing yourself, over and over, even when it's hard. Especially when it’s hard.

This is something I’ve had to learn through my own rocky road, one paved with people-pleasing patterns, unspoken expectations, and the quiet ache of self-neglect. It took therapy, shadow-work journaling, and the uncomfortable (but necessary) process of facing the habits that kept me small. Slowly, I began releasing what no longer served me. I started asking different questions. What brings me joy? Who am I, really, when I’m not performing for love?

That journey back to myself, is still unfolding. But it’s there, in the rediscovery of my truth, that real healing began.

Let this be your invitation today, not to look outward for validation, but inward for truth. Reflect on the love you give so freely. Does it circle back to you? Can you offer it to the parts of yourself that feel abandoned?

There is abundance within you. Not the kind that needs to be earned or proved, but the kind that already exists in your breath, your softness, your persistence.

May we all learn to stop shrinking for those who cannot see us clearly. And may we rise in the glow of the love we choose to give ourselves.

Journal Prompt:
Where in your life have you been giving love but not receiving it in return? 

What would it look like to redirect that love inward today?

What brings you joy?

And a gentle reminder…
Breaking cycles will look different for each of us. Your healing doesn’t need to follow a straight path, it’s allowed to be messy, quiet, slow, or loud. You hold your own unique rhythm and your own inner magic, just waiting to be rediscovered.

Be soft with yourself as you explore these tender chapters. You are already worthy of the love you’re learning to give yourself.